Episode 58 Target at Amazing

Have you gone through a period of time, that is so intense, from difficult relationships, struggles in life decisions, and that in some quiet night, you just whisper to yourself, "I just want a normal life..."

Yes, me too.

This blog is about what I learned during this period of time. It is about why we should target at having an amazing life. Why we stopped doing it. Why doing it is hard. And Why we should still do it.

Why we stopped doing it?
Most of us have had childhood dreams, the rosy fantasies about how amazing that dream would be like.

After we've grown up, we don't often dream about that.

We have been told that "Life is hard." "Work is work." "Be realistic."

We have been hurt. And from these painful experiences, we learned that, higher expectation creates higher risks of disappointment, frustrations, pain. Sometimes, we are so tired, and quietly tell ourselves, "God, I just want a normal life."

That's why we stopped targeting at having an amazing life.


Why we should target at amazing?
If you want to have an OK life, a normal life, you won't get it if you target to have an OK and normal life. Why? Because normally you would only plan for good things - you would NOT plan for challenges to happen - and they will happen. When they happen, they will drag you below the OK line.

That's why we have to target at having an amazing life. Make short term, long term plans for it. Execute on the plans like our lives depend on them, because they do.

The joy generated from these amazing moments is so powerful, abundant that it will carry us through challenges, make them manageable, worth it, or even not seem to be challenges.

People won't be happy just by fixing problems. Happiness is created. It is more an offensive activity, than a defensive activity.


What we need to equip ourselves?
Targeting at Amazing, requires tremendous courage: be prepared to be disappointed, frustrated and hurt.

We need to go through difficult times, be hurt, be stronger, and repeat.

And that's what makes difficult times valuable.

So that we have that courage.

So that we are able to target at amazing.

So that we will actually land on a good life.