Gloria's Blog

On my way to work on April 6th, I listened to a podcast . It is an interview with Vanessa Van Edwards, the author of Captivate . It described her way to have dazzling conversations in a networking setting: "It is not about how to impress other people, but how to give other people opportunities to impress you." "A good conversation creates sense of belongings - you make them feel that they belong to you, and you belong to them. Examples are: you share some common experiences; you show that you care about what they care about, by asking thoughtful questions. Their book, their business, their pets, etc. " Vanessa also introduced a fun trick, "Go on a 'No what do you do question' diet. " You don't ask these routine questions that let people go on autopilot. Instead, you ask more thoughtful questions, the purpose is to create sense of belongings. *** It was enlightening to me!  First, I realized networking is something that many pe

You may question, there are already a ton of inspirational books, blogs, all over the place. Why are people still writing them? I also have the same doubt: Why am I still writing them? Is it really worth the time putting my realizations in life into words to share? Well. Yes. Let me ask you some other questions: why do we have weekends every week? why do we sleep every day? Because resting is not some one-dose-good-for-the-rest-of-your-life thing. So is motivation. I write them because I need them, and they work for me, for my dreams, right at this moment. And if sharing these words will benefit at least one person, my effort will be worth it. *** 1 *** Last week, I watched a video. It's about an extremely obese person, Brian, met a girl, Jackie, in an online video game, and became friends, very close friends. Eventually this girl got to know his weight, about 600 lbs. And how a one sentence that this girl said has made him lost 390 lbs in a year. "She chang